This morning Jarrett and I woke up giddy, anxious, nervous and terrified. Today we find out how many of our embryos decided to stick with Sara to grow and form into beautiful girls. In our hearts we would love just one healthy baby; that is why we started this journey, but knowing that we transferred 2 embryos the thought of having twin girls is that much more intriguing. What a blessing to have two!! The idea of it sounds fun & hard, but challenging, which I love.
As we meet Sara at the doctors office, we are all smiling so exciting and ready to get some results, see the baby(ies), so this can all begin to feel REAL!
We all get in the room and we begin. As the Sono tech is scanning she finds one sac with a fluttering heart beat, the most amazing thing I’ve seen in a long time. Just to see a heart beat on the screen made me tear up because it brought me back to the night of the last time I saw Ruby on the sonogram with no movement, no heart beat. I’ve dreamed of the day I would once again see that beautiful movement of a heartbeat.
We all cheered with excitement, but still anxious to see if there was more. As she continued to scan, her voice changed and she stopped and said, “okay, this is where it gets a little tricky, so let me explain…”
My heart dropped because I knew something wasn’t right. Their was another baby in her own little sac; healthy, a fluttering heart beat and growing just as big as the other, but she was in the wrong spot. This embryo had migrated it’s way back over to the left fallopian tube. She had been growing perfectly with her sister, just in the wrong area. I remember the room was quiet and it was like you could feel everyone thinking of a million questions in their head. We were all trying to be excited, but worried and curious what this meant. Finally Jarrett asked the question we were all wondering…. “so, what does this mean? Can we move her back into the uterus?” Stacy paused and said, “unfortunately no, and Ku will further instruct us on the options moving forward.” All I remember while this was all going on, was Sara on the exam table holding my hand tightly and repeating “we have one healthy baby, this is what we asked for”. Tears continued to roll down my face, thinking to myself, what does this mean, what is Sara going to have to go through, is this going to affect both babies trying to remove the one??
We had one of the nurses take our picture in front of the sono screen, smiling, but crying and still terrified of what was to come.
The three of us were moved to a tiny office to wait for Dr. Ku to get out of surgery so that we could discuss our options. We all sat down and tried to pep talk our selves; trying to remember why we stared this journey in the first place. Still the only thing I could think of was I’m losing another perfectly good and healthy daughter. We waited and waited talking about anything other than what was happening at the moment. Finally, Tammy came in to talk to us giving us a little more information on what was going on and Dr. Ku followed for a further explanation.
He said yay, we have one, and we also have another that’s going to have to be removed. Sara was going to have to go into emergency surgery that night to remove her left tube and the baby. I just cried and apologized to her. Jarrett and I were both upset and thinking the same thing, that this is never what we wanted. We never wanted to jeopardize Sara and her health. Sara the entire time was so composed and never wanted us to see that she was terrified and upset. It all happened so quickly and the next thing we knew Sara was signing consent forms to go in for surgery. Dr. Ku of course had to explain to us that there were risks involved with the healthy baby that would be staying in the uterus. With Sara being put under anesthesia, it could be too hard on such a young baby and they would be working right along side of the uterus.
At this point we were first concerned about Sara and her health, secondly worried to disturb and possibly lose the healthy baby and third still devastated about losing the one baby that was perfectly healthy. What a roller coaster of emotions. We soon all went our separate ways; Sara had to go get blood work done, go home and get Jaime, kiss her babies and head out the door for surgery. Jarrett and I still in a fog of so many different emotions racing through our minds, went to get a burger we knew we couldn’t eat. We drove home talking about everything, reminding ourselves that we are so lucky that we have one healthy baby and that some people go through all of this to find out they have none. Still remembering one thing that stuck out to me what Sara said, “we still have SEVEN more healthy embryos.” Starting to realize that this is Gods path for us and he wanted us to remember why we stared this journey.
In my mind I still couldn’t get excited about the ONE, because I just kept thinking of the risk of losing her in surgery. I couldn’t bare to get too attached again and be let down AGAIN. Jarrett and I finally calmed ourselves down and we were able to process it all. We said we could breathe after surgery is over, knowing Sara is healthy and the sono shows that their is still a strong heart beat. I went to the hospital to meet Sara and Jaime, while Jarrett stayed home with River. I was so nervous, but trying not to show it. Jaime and Sara were being so strong and calm, which helped me to be calm. Sara went in for surgery and Jaime and I sat in the waiting room talking and getting to know one another. Drinking coffee and trying to be patient while time passed by.
When he was done, Dr. Ku came and found us and showed us some pretty interesting pictures he had taken of Sara’s insides. Ku explained that Sara’s left tube had ruptured between the time of our appointment and driving to the hospital. It’s amazing how the timing of it all worked out. Surgery went great, Sara has only her right tube now and scan of baby showed that we have a strong heart beat. We were so thrilled it had all worked out and now to enjoy we are pregnant with ONE HEALTHY BABY GIRL!!
Baby Mama
April